Love content
Two good thoughts I got recently I would like to share here. One is "Do not love people for their good qualities but in spite of their negative ones" and an extension to it is "The more the negative qualities you find in a person, the more you should love him". As i reflected upon these, I got a vague understanding as to why and how one must try to follow this.
According to my understanding, love is the greatest postive force in this world. Every one in this world undoubtedly seeks love and wants to be loved because every one is able to understand love as a soothing force. Hence, in many places we come across sayings like "God is Love" and "Love is God", etc. Although love is something which is undefinable by words, crudely I would define it as the absence of all negative qualities like prejudices, hatred, jealousies, greed, suspicions, desires, and many more. Also, the "love content" (the amount of love) in one can be measured in terms of the amount of positive qualities one has in oneself. (Although love is not measurable, I am trying hereby to make it a measurable quantity so that it becomes easier for our understanding) The greater the positive qualities one possesses, the greater the love he has in himself.
As a human being, every one has positive and negative qualities. There is no person in this world who is totally negative. It is only the percentage of positive and negative qualities that varies between people. Since every one has some amount of positive qualities in oneself, he is still lovable. Most of us love people for their good qualities. But once we come across their negative aspects, we start to develop grudges and prejudices against them forgetting the positive aspects they have. So, the first lesson is, whenever we come across the negative qualities, we must develop the capacity to neglect them and see only the positive ones. Thus, automatically love will develop and we will be able to love one in spite of one's negative attributes.
Now, with more and more interaction with a particular person, we get to know more and more of his negative tendencies. Since, he has more negative tendencies in himself, the love content in him is quite low. He is not able to love himself and others fully, yet, because he is a human being, he seeks love. But the others, unable to put up with his negative qualities, start disliking him. As a result, he is in a state where his love content is low and there are not many people to supply love to him. Thus, his negativities tend to increase. At this juncture, if we are able to understand him and supply enough of love to him, there is a possibility that the love transmitted can slowly develop positive qualities in him because love can create only positive qualities. Once positive qualities start increasing, the love content in him increases and he will able to experience the love from inside.
But there is a difficulty in dealing with such people. If they are prejudiced against us, then how much ever we try to love them, they will never be able to receive it. Why? Because love cannot enter into the area of prejudice. The best way to deal with such people is just to keep away from them because the love we supply might be misunderstood and the prejudices they have against us might increase. But in spite of the prejudices people have against us, we must realise that they are developing prejudices because they don't have enough love content in themselves and hence, we must continue to love them.
How much we are able to put these things into practice depends on the love content we have in ourselves. The greater the love content, easier it is to practice all the above mentioned conditions. But in this world, where the supply of love from outside is temporary and insufficient, how to increase the love content we have in ourselves? This is left to the reader to think about and answer.
According to my understanding, love is the greatest postive force in this world. Every one in this world undoubtedly seeks love and wants to be loved because every one is able to understand love as a soothing force. Hence, in many places we come across sayings like "God is Love" and "Love is God", etc. Although love is something which is undefinable by words, crudely I would define it as the absence of all negative qualities like prejudices, hatred, jealousies, greed, suspicions, desires, and many more. Also, the "love content" (the amount of love) in one can be measured in terms of the amount of positive qualities one has in oneself. (Although love is not measurable, I am trying hereby to make it a measurable quantity so that it becomes easier for our understanding) The greater the positive qualities one possesses, the greater the love he has in himself.
As a human being, every one has positive and negative qualities. There is no person in this world who is totally negative. It is only the percentage of positive and negative qualities that varies between people. Since every one has some amount of positive qualities in oneself, he is still lovable. Most of us love people for their good qualities. But once we come across their negative aspects, we start to develop grudges and prejudices against them forgetting the positive aspects they have. So, the first lesson is, whenever we come across the negative qualities, we must develop the capacity to neglect them and see only the positive ones. Thus, automatically love will develop and we will be able to love one in spite of one's negative attributes.
Now, with more and more interaction with a particular person, we get to know more and more of his negative tendencies. Since, he has more negative tendencies in himself, the love content in him is quite low. He is not able to love himself and others fully, yet, because he is a human being, he seeks love. But the others, unable to put up with his negative qualities, start disliking him. As a result, he is in a state where his love content is low and there are not many people to supply love to him. Thus, his negativities tend to increase. At this juncture, if we are able to understand him and supply enough of love to him, there is a possibility that the love transmitted can slowly develop positive qualities in him because love can create only positive qualities. Once positive qualities start increasing, the love content in him increases and he will able to experience the love from inside.
But there is a difficulty in dealing with such people. If they are prejudiced against us, then how much ever we try to love them, they will never be able to receive it. Why? Because love cannot enter into the area of prejudice. The best way to deal with such people is just to keep away from them because the love we supply might be misunderstood and the prejudices they have against us might increase. But in spite of the prejudices people have against us, we must realise that they are developing prejudices because they don't have enough love content in themselves and hence, we must continue to love them.
How much we are able to put these things into practice depends on the love content we have in ourselves. The greater the love content, easier it is to practice all the above mentioned conditions. But in this world, where the supply of love from outside is temporary and insufficient, how to increase the love content we have in ourselves? This is left to the reader to think about and answer.
8 Comments:
see, love's quality is that it will create lightness and positive energies in you. if at all the loves you have mentioned create any other thing (example a sensual love which you say can result in disappointment because of expectation), then it can no longer be love, it is something other than love.
in fact the love i have mentioned has to occur at all ages and towards every one. a love which is not directed towards can no longer be called as the true love because love cannot flow depending on the receiver but depending on the amount of love(love content) the person from whom it flows has.
you say this is impractical? hehe. only a person who experiences it will know what it is. and that is what i said in one of my posts that thoughts are thrown away into the dustbin because people felt it was too ideal and impractical. who cares? if people are willing to follow them, let them. but i am able to follow them and i know i can improve upon this. and i know it can make life blissful.
love is the greatest potent force in this universe. if you cannot experience it fully, then there is no point in living this life.
Lot of thoughts in my head after reading this... but definitely im going to have a tough time expressing them in words.
First of all, i dont understand why its necessary to quantify everything! Positive-negative qualities, good-bad behavious etc. Nobody wants to be a 'bad' person!! Its just that from their own perspective, it seems right.
"But in spite of the prejudices people have against us, we must realise that they are developing prejudices because they don't have enough love content in themselves and hence, we must continue to love them"...a statememnt to me which makes no sense.. 'love content'.. concept which i couldnt comprehend.
All i can say about love is that..it comes very naturally. Its the kind of "feeling" you have for a person that is beyond words. you will love that person for just that one thing/one quality that is in him/her. There is no such thing according to me as 20% or 70% love for this person. If you adore him/her for wat ever he/she is...there is 'that' feeling.
never have i mentioned that there is something called as 20% love for some one. i agree totally with you that you should love a person for whatever he is.
you say the feeling should come naturally. how will it come? the feeling of love automatically develops once you are able to avoid all prejudices against any one. so, the effort is not to love but to avoid prejudices. once, you are able to make sure you don't have any prejudices, it means you have love in your heart towards him.
finally, thank you for commenting on this.
ok, the 20%/70% love i mentioned was about the fact that you mentioned that love is a relative term.
See, that is the thing I have been trying to tell in my previous post. Love is nothing something that arises out of the absense of prejudices against someone. Read this and my prev post again.. hope you get wat i mean.
hey..Reading your comment about love.it actually made me think about it...I agree with you. no offences.. but somewhere down in my mind i feel that LOVE is an abstract feeling ... It doesnt need to be measured.. and may be my perception of love is different... but i completely agree with you about liking the person inspite of his negatives.... that makes people think about it..
whenever we come across the negative qualities, we must develop the capacity to neglect them and see only the positive ones.
I don't think one must neglect the negative, one must know how to overcome the negative. It is a known fact that many achievers have risen by learning from their negatives, that being the case, 'negative' attributes must be handles with more care to turn them the right way.
@manas_buddhi.
i think you have totally misunderstood what i have said. When i said, when we come across the negatives, i meant the negatives of others and not our own. i totally agree that we should keep monitoring our own negatives and try to improve upon them to become better.
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