Never "Try" to be humble
A post after a long time here. Nevertheless, I have been wanting to write about this for a long time.
What is humility? As per the dictionary, humility is a state of being modest where one does not feel that he is better than or worse than the others. But, according to me, humility is a quality got only when the ego or the feeling of "I" is totally reduced. He doesn't feel anything when he is being praised or is being criticised. Both appear similar to him and he is able to accept them with ease.
Many of us consider being humble as a virtue. Hence, we behave in a manner such that others think that we are humble. I think most of us have experienced this "trying to be humble" kind of behaviour amongst our friends. In fact, most of us also belong to this category. Suppose you 'truly' appreciate or praise your friend for something he has achieved, on most occasions, he immediately will reject the praise and say he does not deserve it or will say he hasn't really achieved anything and there is nothing in it to be lauded. Now, do you think he really is telling the truth? Surely not. He knows that he has achieved something good and wants every one to appreciate him, a sure sign of ego. But once some one appreciates, he 'tries' to be humble and hence, he rejects the praise externally but internally, he is very happy about the fact that some one has praised him. Now, one can obviously tell that there is a mismatch between the internal feeling and external behaviour. By 'trying' to be humble, he actually loses one another noble quality called as truthfulness where there is total match between between the internal feeling and the external behaviour. Moreover, we try to be humble also because we want others to tell that we are humble in spite of our achievements or positions. The ego gets a great satisfaction of being called as humble.
Thus, by 'trying' to be humble, our ego is boosted, thus taking us further and further away from true humility and also takes as away from truthfulness by creating a false identity for ourselves. I feel it is better to accept that I am arrogant or egoistic than 'trying' to be humble because here at least the truth is present and the very fact that we are true to ourselves can help us lose our ego and become truly humble. At least to me, this is a great lesson learnt but have found it very difficult to implement. I have been living like this for years now and suddenly realise it is very detrimental. Surely, I need a dramatic change in this regard.
What is humility? As per the dictionary, humility is a state of being modest where one does not feel that he is better than or worse than the others. But, according to me, humility is a quality got only when the ego or the feeling of "I" is totally reduced. He doesn't feel anything when he is being praised or is being criticised. Both appear similar to him and he is able to accept them with ease.
Many of us consider being humble as a virtue. Hence, we behave in a manner such that others think that we are humble. I think most of us have experienced this "trying to be humble" kind of behaviour amongst our friends. In fact, most of us also belong to this category. Suppose you 'truly' appreciate or praise your friend for something he has achieved, on most occasions, he immediately will reject the praise and say he does not deserve it or will say he hasn't really achieved anything and there is nothing in it to be lauded. Now, do you think he really is telling the truth? Surely not. He knows that he has achieved something good and wants every one to appreciate him, a sure sign of ego. But once some one appreciates, he 'tries' to be humble and hence, he rejects the praise externally but internally, he is very happy about the fact that some one has praised him. Now, one can obviously tell that there is a mismatch between the internal feeling and external behaviour. By 'trying' to be humble, he actually loses one another noble quality called as truthfulness where there is total match between between the internal feeling and the external behaviour. Moreover, we try to be humble also because we want others to tell that we are humble in spite of our achievements or positions. The ego gets a great satisfaction of being called as humble.
Thus, by 'trying' to be humble, our ego is boosted, thus taking us further and further away from true humility and also takes as away from truthfulness by creating a false identity for ourselves. I feel it is better to accept that I am arrogant or egoistic than 'trying' to be humble because here at least the truth is present and the very fact that we are true to ourselves can help us lose our ego and become truly humble. At least to me, this is a great lesson learnt but have found it very difficult to implement. I have been living like this for years now and suddenly realise it is very detrimental. Surely, I need a dramatic change in this regard.
